While these men report a fondness and deep love for their spouse, they also report a very low or nonexistent amount of validation, and an inadequate amount of attention and praise from her. Perhaps an inequality of the division of household labour resulted in some long-held resentment on the part of their wives.
Regardless, these men internalised the dynamics in those relationships as a condemnation of them and their masculinity. Their decision to cheat comes from the desire to experience the love and affection they expect to receive from their wife, but has faded over time.
After years of enduring those unmet needs, infidelity became a way for them to be doted on while not having to give up a partnership that still means the world to them. However, where their own orgasms and sexual pleasure motivated women, hearing praise for their sexual prowess made men feel worthy and manly.
To them, their wives treat sex as a chore and lack all enthusiasm about it. Their outside partners function as the person to whom they go for that praise and recognition. That is not to say, though, that the decision to cheat functioned as the first step men took when they felt unsatisfied in their marriage. And when you pass that hurdle and then face a spouse who simply turns a blind eye, is the next step to file for divorce and upend your life?
He never cheated. To Weiss, only that level of maturity and consideration can keep men from cheating. A mature person keeps their partner in mind wherever they are. Sign up for the Fatherly newsletter to get original articles and expert advice about parenting, fitness, gear, and more in your inbox every day.
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Is this really about them? You're not going to be able to mend the relationship if they're defensive or not willing to be truthful after the cheating. The second aspect to consider is if they're remorseful. You can't be the one who brings it up during every argument—it's unhealthy. Can you be the type of person to forgive and trust them? Finally, she says it's important to step back from the situation and think about your values. If your S. Your Privacy Rights. To change or withdraw your consent choices for Brides.
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